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The military family has to endure some unique challenges compared to non-military families. Families must learn to cope with deployment which can be particularly difficult for the kids. However, with enough communication, assurance and emotional support, a military family can remain solid under the circumstances of uncertainty. In fact, many military families have strong bonds with one another because of the uncertain circumstances that they have had to endure. Understand that having a family member in the military can be a way for your family to learn, grow and develop character.
Talk to Kids
When the entire family is present, have family meetings. Prior to deployment, have everyone discuss their current feelings and any uncertainties about the future. By establishing solid communication, parents and children can freely communicate about how they feel and offer any solutions to coping problems. Have talks on a regular basis when the family is together. Put aside quality time, such as dinner, game night and regular vacations when all of the family is present.
Develop a Communication Plan
Figure out if or when the deployed family member can regularly communicate with their children. Let your children know that the deployed parent still loves and cares about them despite not being around. Plan for your children to write to the deployed family member on a regular basis. This can be an incredibly healing activity for children who feel a separation between themselves and a parent.
After Deployment
Spend time with family and friends and create a positive support system for your nuclear family. Another way to gain support is by bonding with other military families who are going through a similar situation. A support system is an important aspect in you and your children’s lives. Rather than feeling alone in this situation, your kids can gain comfort and encouragement from others.
