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The subject of deployment may be a difficult one to handle, especially with kids. How can you tell them that they won’t see mommy or daddy for a long period of time? It’s important to talk to your kids about deployment and get them familiar with concept before the time actually comes. Learn some strategies to talk to your kids about a parent who is getting deployed.
Parents talk first
It’s up to the parents to get together and plan exactly how they’ll approach the matter. Depending on the age of the children, it can be a difficult concept to present at the dinner table. It’s also important that both parents remain confident in the issue. This is a great time to practice being calm when discussing the subject of deployment, especially because children can catch on when their parents feel uncomfortable or negative about a situation. Also, children are good mimics, so it’s important that you be aware of how you act.
Plan a meeting
Get the family together all at once to discuss the subject of deployment. This can be after dinner or during a special time when everyone can get together. Talk about the important facts of deployment, such as the date of absence. Do not share more information than they can handle, keep it to a minimum.
Offer assurance
It’s important to make sure that your children accept the situation. Offer solutions and assurance if they are having any issues about the deployment. Have them discuss their feelings freely. The more they get their feelings out in the open, the easier it will be for the remaining parent to deal with any issues. Remind your children that they will still keep in touch with the deployed parent and that they are free to send emails, cards and care packages.
Deployment can be a difficult subject to talk about in military families, but it is certainly a tough reality.
